Soul Mates
Debbie is an eighteen-year-old student who wants to become a doctor. Debbie’s mother gave her a past-life regression as a birthday present. Debbie was excited. She reached an altered state quickly and had no difficulty returning to a past life. It was an early twentieth-century New York, and she was an elderly woman named Joan who lived in a small apartment with a cat name Rags.
Doctor: “Has it been a good life?”
Joan tossed her head and grimed.
Debbie: “Had its moments.” Her voice sounded old, tired, and rasping as if she’d smoked a pack of cigarettes everyday of her life.”
Doctor: “What was the best time?”
Joan smiled in reminiscence.
Debbie: “When I was eighteen, in Central Park. With Herbie.” She coughed and shook her head. “Poor Herbie.” Doctor: “Who was Herbie?”
Debbie: “Friend.”
Doctor: “That’s all, just friend?”
Joan giggled, and for a second seemed to be eighteen again. Then her face appeared to be age again.
Debbie: “I love him.”
Doctor: “Good. And did he love you?”
Debbie: “Of course.” Joan sounded indignant.
Doctor: “Did you marry him?”
Debbie: “No.” Joan appeared to be getting upset, when she added, “He’s Jewish.”
Doctor: “And that means you can’t marry him?”
Joan nodded.
Doctor: “Who did you marry?”
Debbie: “Tommy Person.”
Doctor: “Was it good marriage?”
The marriage seemed to be neither good nor bad. They had two children, Walter and Edward. Tommy worked hard as a baker, and eventually owned his own business. He never made much money, but he was a good father and always managed to provide the necessities of life. They were married for almost forty years and only ever had two vacations. One was to Chicago to see the World’s Fair, and the other one was sounded like Duesbury. Both vacations were one week long. His husband died two days after his sixtieth birthday. Their older son, Walter, took over the bakery. He was a good worker but a poor businessman, and the business failed a few years later. This caused a major rift in the family and his younger brother Edward, who worked in the bank, refused to have anything to do with him.
Debbie: “Christmas day I see one boy, and then the other. Never together. One in the evening, the other one in the afternoon. It’s cruel, but families are cruel.”
Doctor: “Did you ever see Herbie again ?”
Joan’s eyes sparkled and a smile briefly played on her lips.
Debbie: “Once.” In Central Park. Walter and Edward were small, maybe six and four. It was Sunday afternoon, and we were walking, enjoying the sunshine as it had been a long winter. A family outing. I looked across at a park bench and there was Herbie with his arm around a beautiful woman with long dark hair. They looked very happy. Our eyes met and I blushed, and then they walked away. Tommy didn’t notice anything. I’ve often thought of that day and wondered who the beautiful woman was.” Joan bit her lip and appeared pensive. “I hope he had a happy life.”
Joan was now waiting for her death.
Debbie: “My friends are gone, and my only family are the boys and their children. I see them occasionally. I sit at my window and watch the world go by. Sometimes the days are long, but usually I fall asleep in my chair. Mr. Bernstein next door looks after me. He shops and tells me long story about his childhood. He’s a nice man.”
Doctor: “I’d now like you to go to the last day of your life.”
Debbie: “I’m in my chair at the window. I’ve got a pain.”
Doctor: “Where?”
Debbie: “Something wrong with my heart.”
Doctor: “What are you doing?”
Debbie: “Nothing.”
Doctor: “Why don’t you ask Mr. Bernstein to help?”
Debbie: “He’s dead.”
Doctor: “Who else can help?”
Debbie: “I don’t want help. I’m ready to go.”
Doctor: “Then, go ahead?”
Debbie: “I’m still there.”
Doctor: “Yes, you are seeing something?” A minute or two passed before she answered.
Debbie: “I’m just floating,” she whispered softly.
Doctor: “Have your left your body now?”
Debbie: “Yes, I’m just floating.”
Doctor: “What does the process of moving out of your body look like?”
Debbie: “Well, it’s as if I shed my skin . . . pealing a banana. I just lose my body in one swoosh!”
People associate death as losing life force when actually the opposite is true. When an individual leaves the physical world, he or she leaves behind a heavy, dense body that has inhabited an equally dense, heavy world. Such a transition can be compared to removing a winter overcoat, or a snake soughing off its outer skin. When we die, we are finished using our biological vehicle that is worn out, and so we let it go. Nothing is lost except the worn out physical body. The complete soul remains intact; we are still very much alive and well. There is a strong sense of lightness and buoyancy because the weight and gravity of the physical body no longer exist. Our personality, with all its memory, feelings, likes, dislikes, emotions, and desires, stay the same. Unseen intelligent energy forces guide each of us through the gate. Our guides and a number of soulmates and friends wait for us close to the gateway to provide recognition, affection, and the assurance we are all right.
Doctor: “Can you see the body you’ve just left?”
Debbie: “Yes, It’s so small!.” Joan smiled.
Doctor: “Is there anyone else there?” Joan shook her head.
Doctor: “Do you know now what you need to learn?”
Most people need to think about their question before answering it, but Debbie’s reply was instant.
Debbie: “Follow your dreams. Don’t let other people influence you. Don’t settle for second best.”
After a few seconds she woke up. She was surprised with her past life. It’s not what she expected at all.
Debbie: “I thought I’d married to the man of my dreams.”
Doctor: “So you’ll marry for love this time?”
Debbie laughed:
Debbie: “This time I’ll marry Herbie.”
Doctor: “Did you recognize him?”
Debbie shook her head.
Debbie: “No. I haven’t met him yet. But we’re meant to be together. I’ll recognize him when we meet each other.”
Doctor: “He’s your soul mate?”
Debbie: “You know, in that regression I felt that I had known Herbie for many, many lifetimes. We seemed to be so close, and yet we were not allowed to be together. It seemed so cruel.” She shook her head. “This won’t happen this time.”
A primary, or principle soulmate is frequently in our life as closely bonded partner. This partnership may be our spouse, brother, or sister, a best friend, or occasionally a parent. No other soul is more important to us than a primary soulmate and when people describe lives with these souls as their mates most will say their existence is enriched beyond measure. Our primary soulmate is our eternal partner. He or she is the one you have lived many lives together for hundreds, or even thousands, of years in previous incarnations.
Companion soulmates play important support roles in our lives and we do the same thing for them. These souls have differences in character and a variety of talents which complement each other.
There is a big difference between physical desire and soul cooperation and companionship. If a relationship or marriage is based primarily upon physical desire and gratification, it could not succeed. Instead, a successful relationship had to contain a joint spiritual/soul prompting that united the couple in service to one another. A healthy relationship includes physical attraction and desires also, but it was much more. It is the recognition that you have what that person needs for his or her soul to grow and your partner has what you need. It is knowing that this is the person you are here to grow in love with, that this is the person you are here to share your heart and learn the lessons of life with. One way of saying it is, “I don’t know why, but somehow we are supposed to be together. In my most clear and loving moments, this is what I know to be true.” There is a feeling of safety and trust far greater than could be earned in only one day or one week or one month. Soul recognition transcends verbal description. There is an intuitive knowing, a knowledge of the heart. The soul just knows.
While the couple will still experience the normal challenges that any two people who understand each other would experience, there is a deep mental connection they keep coming back to that helps them overcome the inevitable conflicts, frustrations and disappointments in any relationship.
Ultimately, the purpose of all relationship is personal and spiritual development. Ask yourself,
Does this relationship make me a better person?
Does it challenge and stretch me?
Does it encourage me to become a more balanced and a giving person?
Most important, does this relationship bring out the very best within me?
In spite of the attraction a couple might feel for one another, the union would not best for the personal and spiritual development of either or both individuals if they are not compatible, because soon or later the problem will emerge. Writing down compatibility list as a partner choice guide is significant in helping you avoid partner you don’t need and recognize partner you need.
Each individual has multiple soul mates with whom she or he can make a successful relationship in the present. Obviously, each choice leads to different potentials and a different experiences and different outcomes. Some choices are ultimately better than the others.
The soul mate condition is not just contained within sexual relationships. Each of us has different types of soul mate relationships. Some of those relationships might manifest in the present-life with various members of our family, and friends with whom there is a deep bond and connection. The indication of soul mate is that there is always a deep bond and mental connection, whether they are our partner, family members, friends or relatives. We connect with people on many levels for a multitude of karmic lessons in every life.
A soul mate relationship is NOT a relationship in which there are never any difficulties or challenges. The soul mate will offer you problems and obstacles just as you will offer the same things in return. A soul mate is someone with whom you can work through life’s challenges and difficulties. Especially if the couple has children, they will have their share of difficulties and challenges. Together, they experience the normal ups and down of any marriage but there is a deep bond and mental connection, which keep them together and as long as they work together they would be able to bring out the best in the other and gain for themselves those developments that bring peace, joy and happiness. Soul mate relationships create an opportunity for personal growth, personal fulfillment and service to each other. The unison of purpose is significant because together all can be accomplished, alone nothing may be accomplished. The lesson we must learn from human relationships is accepting people for who they are without expecting our happiness to be to much dependent upon anyone. Relationships between people are the most vital part of our lives.
To know ourselves spiritually means understanding why we joined in life with the souls of parents, siblings, spouse, and close friends. They are individuals who were destined to have an impact in our lives. Remember, along with learning our own lessons, we come to earth to play a part in the drama of others’ lesson as well. Overcoming adversity in these relationships may mean we won’t have to repeat certain abrasive alliances in future lives.
Family members had been drawn together for a purpose experience. Whether they have learned something or not, it is a matter of free will. By being with one another, each had been provided with the opportunity to evolve, to grow and to become a better person in the process.
Between earthly incarnations a soul takes stock of all it has come to know as well as all it needs to learn in this ongoing process of personal growth and development. Once this evaluation process is complete and the individual soul has decided what lessons might possibly be achieved next on the soul’s agenda, the soul waits for the proper timing and location that will best provide the opportunities the soul need to experience. A soul chooses other individual souls with whom it has been associated before in the previous lives, and suddenly the present-day family grouping is created.
We travel in very large “families” of relations, friends and even enemies, and as we make the conscious decision to return to the earth we will assign each other roles, depending on the lessons that need to be learned here. Group of souls tend to reincarnate together again and again, working on their karma. Personal wholeness is achieved as each soul completes each lesson in soul growth and personal transformation.
Reincarnation is of real value and importance in the hereafter. While souls’ spiritual growth continues in hereafter, it is at a much slower pace than on earth. There, unencumbered by hardship and strife, their spiritual growth occurs quietly and peaceful. Much more spiritual growth can happen on the earth, because the spiritual lessons come in the form of learning through hardship and adversity. We accomplish on earth in seventy or eighty years what it might take perhaps ten times longer in the hereafter to learn – thus the decision to return.
The decision to come back to the earth is a very long process in the hereafter because the souls continue learning and understanding in a place far less crazy than the earth. We do choose our next life on the earth, not so much by what we would like but rather what lessons we can learn from that lifetime.
One thing is certain: we have created the reality we have so that we may learn. In the first painful moments of tragedy, people inevitably ask, “Why did this have to happen?” We need to ask, “What lesson am I fulfilling from learning from my life’s spiritual course?” Bad things don’t happen to people. We must understand that tragedy is not for punishment. There are no accidents in the universe, no matter how random things on the earth might look. There are merely scripts, written by us before we arrive here to be played out and learned from the best we know.
Once the play has begun most of us don’t know we are in a play until it’s over, due to a variety of amnesiac blocks. The outcome of one’s performance in the play may range from very satisfactory to acceptable to unsatisfactory. The whole process of reincarnation is indeed a game. A game called life.
Amnesia is imposed upon us when we come into a current life, so that past life experiences, memories, and behavior related to the previous personalities do not interfere with the development of the present personality.
In past life regression you may identify people in your past life who are important to you in this lifetime. Someone who was your wife in past life might be your son or mother in this lifetime. The relationships and sexes change, but the person will be instantly recognizable. If this happens, you will notice a subtle positive change in your relationship with these people in the future. You will become more accepting and understanding of them. You will realize that they are in your present life to help you learn some important lessons. And in the same way, they will be learning from you.
If we have just come off an easy life, making little interpersonal progress, our soul might want to choose a person/life in the next time cycle who will face heartache and perhaps tragedy. It is not out of the ordinary that someone who has skated through an unchallenging life overloading themselves with turmoil in the next one to catch up with their learning goals.
The purpose of reincarnation is the exercise of free will. By surviving different challenges our soul identity is strengthened. Without this ability, we would be impotent creatures indeed. Reincarnation is a universal reality. It is highly effective method used by soul for the purpose of learning and evolution. We evolve by and through personal experience. The most effective method to truly know something is to become it, to live it. We actually become that which we wish to learn. Souls who are still incarnating are far from perfect.
The principle of karma, or cause and effect, is an effective learning tool for soul. Evolution is enhanced by self-created lessons. We will reap the effects of what we have created, good or bad. The cycle of cause and effect may extend through many lifetimes. The length of time spent on earth is merely an illusion because it is a limitation of the physical body and the physical world. In truth, one lifetime is a very small period of time in the grand scheme of existence. Through karma, a spirit is enabled to obtain the real-life experiences it requires to progress spiritually through living experience via multiple reincarnations into the physical dimension. Karma allows a spirit to maintain a healthy spiritual balance, life after life, and helps avoid the possibility of soul corruption. Karma is not a process of reward and punishment. Karma provides spiritual harmony through a process of enforced spiritual balance.
In spite of the fact that past-life experiences can create probabilities and potentials, it is what individuals do with their free will in the present that shapes the course of their lives. Whenever the individual used the will in a positive direction, he or she could overcome all manner of difficulty and literally change his or her life experience. No urge, no influence, no experience, no environment is greater than the birthright of an individual - the WILL of the individual.
I came to an intriguing irony. The more potential a person has, the more impossible it is for that individual to reach his or her potentials in a single given lifetime. There is too little time on earth to manifest it all. You would realize that life in your physical body, relatively speaking, reflects just a brief moment in time. At the moment of realization, I gave up trying to “reach all my potentials.” I decided that it was more reasonable to make choices in life and to focus on the interests that are most precious and prized. We do not need to worry about cramming every bit of experience into our current physical life. Through future reincarnation we wouldn’t be wasting the talents and abilities we have been blessed with.
As you choose your experiences in between earthly incarnation, you have access to all the spiritual knowledge you’ve gained throughout all your lifetimes, and you use that awareness to help you make your choices. Sometimes, you’re assisted by guardian spirits who offer advice on what might be best for you, but ultimately, the choice is yours. You create your circumstances, so that you may learn; you set up your challenges and make connections by setting up synchronous occurrences on the earth plane. It is extremely important to pay serious attention to the coincidences and the synchronicities experiences in our lives because they often represent the convergence of our spiritual plan and the actual path we are traveling during our lifetime.
Everything in your present life was created by you before birth. Nothing has been left to chance or forced upon you. The only thing you do not choose is the outcome of what you agree to experience.
The idea that a soul would purposely choose a harmful or an abusive family relationship may be impossible for some people to comprehend. However, the soul is most concerned with the possibly of what might come out of the situation rather than with the specifics of the situation itself. It is true that this choice is highly risky because many individuals fail in overcoming the obstacles caused by childhood abuse but if successful the soul will grow into maturity, depth, strength and understanding more rapidly. It is not so important what happens to you in life but how you decide to deal with what happened to you that is important. Often the most important lessons arise from the most difficult times. At a soul level, we choose life situations that will best enable us to learn and fulfill the purpose for which we came into the earth at this time. Whether or not those lessons are learned, however, remains a matter of free will.
Souls choose bodies for a reason. Living in a handicapped body does not necessarily have to involve a karmic debt we are paying off because of past life responsibility for an injury to someone else. This choice can involve a learning path to another type of lesson. He or she has
an opportunity to advance at a faster rate than those of us with healthy bodies. This knowledge must come through self-discovery. The effort necessary to overcome body impediment and adversities does accelerate advancement. Overcoming the obstacles of physical ailments and hurt makes us stronger for ordeal. Souls know in advance about the specific karmic lessons they will face and how they would benefit from living a burdensome life.
Life on this plane is not so much a gift as it is a training of faith and endurance. There are some people who do feel that it is wonderful here, but if you asked most people for an honest answer, they would have to say otherwise. Life is hard for a reason. We have to go through these struggles so that we will benefit from our lessons.
Life is structured on the basic of cosmic principles. All obstacles are lessons in disguise. Honor and learn from them. Obstacles are put in our path to be our greatest teachers. Hidden within them are the exact lessons our soul needs to learn. We grow most from difficulties and not as much from good times. Each one of our obstacles made us stronger and more courageous and deepened our faith in the perfection of the mysterious way in that the universe works. The challenges are the very events which will help us grow the most because nothing is more effective in showing us where we are stuck, where we need to work, where we need to grow, and what lessons we need to learn than the obstacles that cross our path. In bad times we can learn and grow more and in good times we can enjoy the life more.
If there is no challenges and difficulties in life and if everything you needed comes to you without effort on your part, then there is no reason for the soul to come to the earth. Why not just stay in heaven, where – there are free of death, disease, decay, crime, sufferings, and so on. Progress and growth (maturity, patience, depth, understanding, etc.) are made by overcoming the difficulties of our everyday life. The physical plane is designed to be training grounds for the soul development/evolution. For the sake of gaining experience on its path to perfection, the soul incarnates again and again. It is clear that regardless of how long it may take, eventually each individual will be prompted to overcome negative behaviors through a series of personal life experiences.
The evolution of souls involves a transition from imperfection to perfection based upon overcoming many difficult life assignments during our task-oriented lives. Souls may also have a predisposition for selecting environments where they consistently don’t work well, or are subverted. Thus, souls may have their identity damaged by poor life choices. However, all souls are held accountable for their conduct in the bodies they occupy. What goes around truly does come around.
Ultimately, there is no such thing as a “victim,” unless an individual choose to respond as such. All of life’s challenges and difficulties have the potential to be of great assistance in the process of spiritual growth and personal transformation.
We’ve created the karmic momentum in our lives and we have chosen how this momentum is even now moving toward resolution. No matter how difficult or seemingly inexplicable our lives may be, everything in them is there for our own benefit. We are all in the same boat – we are all struggling and learning here. Nothing that happens on the earth is meaningless to the story of our journey here, and everything has a purpose, even if it can’t be immediately seen by us. Sometimes the most profound understanding of life cannot happen until we have left the earth and can see why the world dealt us the circumstances it did. There are no victims on the earth – only students.
During pregnancy, the soul about to enter this world becomes equipped with the thing it will need here – a warm blooded body to adapt itself to living productively on the earth. It is very much like astronaut who needs a special suit to adapt to a different atmosphere. At the time of death, those things we needed on earth can now be discarded since they will not be needed to exist in the hereafter. We will continue with only what we will need – our spirit body and consciousness.
By living on the earth, we have become so easily disarmed by the circumstances of life here and the struggles we have to endure. We are on earth to learn strength in our adversity, to learn peace in our struggle, to learn joy in our sorrow – we are here to learn. This is the understanding that leads us to knowledge, and to our knowledge that leads us back to the Garden – back to our home.
This world is ageless and so too are our learning tasks. We will be given other challenges after previous ones in our struggles for growth. It is hard for us, but that’s why we come to earth . . . to overcome difficulties. We tend to regard any trouble that comes our way as a personal attack against us – against our happiness. The souls in hereafter know very well that the difficulties we endure while we are on the earth – and how we cope with and overcome them – will be perhaps the toughest experience in life on earth. They also know that these trials are a necessary part of our lives to fulfill the goals we had set for ourselves when we last left the Garden. The souls in hereafter know and they understand, because they themselves were once part of the challenge of life on earth.
Achieving our goals here will take constant care and tending in order to produce a great and lasting beauty. Think of your life, not as you thought it would be, but think of your life the way you live it now. What we make of our lifetime here will be entirely up to us.
Life on the earth is more a voyage of self-discovery than it is a discovery of people and things around us. The more we learn about ourselves, the more we understand the world around us. While we are here, we will create so many of the struggles we endure, but they do have a meaning and a purpose – it will up to us to recognize it. Our mission on the earth is simple – to leave behind a garden of our own making on earth. The reward is not so much the garden (our creation/results) but it’s having created it.
Nothing, no meeting comes by chance. There is a design or pattern. These pattern, however, are laid out by the individual. For, there are laws. The Akashic Records are the impulse that draws to us exactly what we need, exactly when we need it. Just as is suggested by the old adage, “when the student is ready, the teacher present him- or herself.” The Akashic Records
are the force that brings individuals together to learn from one another. They are tools that enable individuals to meet themselves (self-created lessons – cause and effect) and to become the very best they can be.
The Akashic Records can be liked to the universe’s supercomputer system. “Akasha” comes from a Sanskrit word meaning “boundless space.” And is equated to the storehouse of all information for every individual who has ever lived. More than just reservoir of events, the Akashic Records contain every deed, word, feeling, thought, and intent that has occurred at any time in the history of the world. Much more than simply a memory storehouse, these Akashic Records are interactive; they have a tremendous influence upon our every life, our relationships, our feeling and belief system, and potential and probabilities we draw toward us.
The soul is destined to grow and whatever it takes to bring this growth in consciousness is exactly what the Askashic Records will continually draw toward the soul. Whether or not the lesson is learned in the present becomes of free choice, but if they are not learned, they will simply be presented again and again in various ways until they are learned and mastered. Those who do not learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them. The earth is literally a “cause and effect” classroom in which each individual constantly has the opportunity to meet self and apply spiritual principles in the material world. An individual’s growth depends primarily on how well he or she deals with the opportunities and circumstances that present themselves in daily life. The past may predispose individuals to certain situations or events, but the ways in which they deal with the present is what determine the course of their futures.
Soulmates are drawn together in the right timing, for a purposeful reason, sometimes almost in spite of themselves. They say, “It is a feeling as if we had known each other a very long time.” As their relationship progress, they will then usually say, “It is truly as if we have known each other forever. It is the bond between us that is eternal, no matter what else was going on in our lives. Our love and acceptance go beyond the realm of this lifetime.“ The force that motivates each soul through time and space is the essence of love. Love transcends time. Love is the strongest force in the world. All of our important relationships in the present-life had their foundation in the past-life.
There may be reason why we might not meet our primary soulmate until later in life. Soulmates will from time to time separate for a life or two and not appear at all.
“My soulmate and I were too dependent upon each other, we needed to grow a while on our own.” This statement is often heard from patients doing the LBL (Live Between Lives) regression when soulmates are apart. www.spiritualregression.com
If the right love for you does not come along, liberate yourself with the understanding that you may be here to learn other lessons. We mistakenly assume people who choose to live alone are lonely when actually they have rich lives that are calm, reflective and productive. Connecting with someone for whom you have no feelings just for the sake of not being alone is lonelier than being by yourself. If your soulmate is suppose to appear they will come into your life, often when you least expect it.
A soul mate relationship is a deep bond that is unshakable and irreplaceable. It is an inner knowing that this person is someone special sent into your life to cherish, experience things with and share things together. It is not always a smooth, happy road, but the bond is there no matter what pitfalls or experiences may be. Patterns can be detected and made stronger or changed. Because of the bond that you have, you are willing to see shortcomings and make self-improvement. In this way lessons are learned and spiritual and personal growth take place.
A young South American woman has been very scared of losing her boyfriend since she met him. It was not normal, though, because even suicide went through her mind. There is no logic reason behind this fear because her boyfriend showed her so many times how much he loves her.
In the regression she could see herself sitting on a starry road. It was 1679, in France. The year was flashed before her mind eye. She was French and her name was Marie-Claire. She was around twenty years old and very pretty, with long black hair. She was wearing brown rags and sandals. This gave her the idea she was very poor. She had a baby in her arms and she was crying non-stop. Then she saw someone else in the scene: She recognizes him as her boyfriend in today’s life. He was around forty years old at that time in France, and very tall and skinny. He was also desperately crying. The two guards came into the scene and pulled him away from her. She saw him reaching out his hand for her and screaming for the guards to let him go. After this regression she now aware where the “unreasonable” fear of losing her boyfriend came from. Her relationship with her boyfriend improved and the fear to lose him reduced rapidly.
Often the events in the distant past are still influencing current relationships. Becoming aware of the root causes in prior lives can heal the relationship in the present. Certain fears and patterns would resurface, in her case “irrational” fear of unwanted and tragic separation, because this trauma had happened before, three hundred years ago in France. One of the karmic tasks was to overcome her fear of separation by understanding that love is an absolute energy and that love never ends, not even with the death of the physical body. We are always reunited with our loved ones. Sometimes the reunion occurs on the other side, in other dimensions; sometimes the reunion takes place in a future lifetime together, back here on earth. Love is what survives our physical bodies on the earth, and it is a gift that cannot be taken away. No matter what divides us on the earth, our spiritual bond is permanent and enduring. Love is the only bond that can never be broken, here and hereafter.
Awareness and understanding are indeed powerful healing forces. It is an understanding of how life works and relationships are ever renewed. It is an understanding of how we never really lose our loved ones. The two did not meet again by accident or by coincident. Before they were even born again into their present-day bodies, they had already agreed to meet at a certain time in their lives. They would meet, they would “recognize” each other at some deeper level as soul companions through time, and then they would have to make decisions about the future of their relationship in this incarnation.
We are spiritual being having human experience. Our body is just a vehicle for us while we are here. It is our soul that last forever. Our lives are not the result of random actions and events. Lifetimes are wisely and carefully scripted to enhance our learning and evolution of our souls.
We are immortal beings who never die and are never emotionally separated from those we love. We have eternal soulmates and soul families. We are forever guided and loved by guardian spirits. We are never alone. When we reawaken to the knowledge that we are all spiritual beings, then our values shift and we can finally become happy and peaceful. Only the treasures of spirit (knowledge, wisdom, character, friendship or love) can be retained and not material acquisitions. Happiness has not rooted in power or fame, only in love and kindness. Happiness comes from within, not from without and not from the reflection of what others think of you.
In vacation we enjoy the fullest freedom to do what we want to do at a given moment. But true fulfillment comes only from creativities, from our true expressions and soulful relationship. Soulful relationship is a true joy.
We must be very careful when we believe that power, money, and fame will make us better people, and then run blindly in search of what we perceive is “success” on the earth. Handling success and growing spiritually is one of the lessons many will have to endure in their lifetime on earth. Of course you can succeed in your work, you can reach the top and become the best, without limits. Just be certain that it comes out of the expanse of your inner growth and not at its expense. Think of your work not as a place to make a living but as an opportunity to learn and grow. Think of yourself as a channel through which creative activities flow, and there is no limit. Wonderful ideas and boundless energies will flow forth easily through you, making you indispensable and appreciated in your work. We have erroneous belief of success as “getting there,” while actually success is “earning the right to be there.” And earning means learning. Setbacks, even failures, may be an important part of that learning. We must live through our experiences in order to gain wisdom and fly higher.
In the three-dimensional world we all know that we cannot take things with us when we leave but we take our behaviors, our habits, our knowledge and our character with us. We may gain and lose many material objects during the course of our lifetime. But we will not meet our possessions in the afterlife. We will meet our loved ones. How we treat our loved ones and others in relationships is infinitely more important than what we have accumulated materially.
If you are in conflict about spending more time with your children, for example, versus getting a bigger house, and you take a view that transcends physical death, it becomes easy to determine which is more important. This insight would enables us stop looking to outside societal pressure as our life’s primary guides. If we could fully accept that the goal of obtaining material possessions is less important than the quality of time we spend with the ones we love, we would be happier and healthier. Having loving relationship appears to bring the added blessing of better health. Then when we die, we will be aware that our life continues and we will be relieved to discover that the choices we made were wise one.
Life is endless, so we never die. We just pass through different phases. There is no end. Time is not as we see time, but rather lessons learned. Recognizing our spiritual nature, our value began to shift toward the spiritual and away from the material, more toward people and relationships and less toward accumulating things. We become more aware of what we take with us (knowledge, wisdom, character, friendship or love) and what we don’t.
A greater understanding of the nature of our life and soul leads to positive changes in the present life and your life will be permanently transformed. Expressing love, compassion, understanding, and kindness in everyday life becomes more significant. With this mental attitude you will inevitably experience better physical and emotional health, healthier relationships, more happiness and joy. You will approach obstacles and frustrations in your life with more patience and calm. Because you understand your true nature and your true purpose you will feel fulfilled and no longer confused or lost. You will learn to overcome anxiety, fear, and grief. You will live your life more fully in the present moment, and you will enjoy its pleasures more completely.
People are drawn together because of their experiences in the past, but what individuals do about those past-life experiences (karmic memory) is entirely dependent upon the activities and choices of the present. Individuals are drawn together for purposeful experience. Essentially, that purpose is to resolve issues and challenges that were created in the past-life as well as to continue any positive interactions that were begun with one another. Good or bad our relationships pick up exactly where we left them off. There is a continuity of former patterns, purposes and ideals. We are not destined to eternally repeat the same patterns and inclinations. Instead, the soul is constantly in the process of evolving onward, but that evolution begins from the point where it left off. Every era on earth is different as to the sort of attachment and experience we will have with our soulmates. However, each life with them builds upon former lives.
The pattern of our relationship with one another is destined to be repeated until they are healed. For example, one patient remembered a violently abusive husband in a past life who has surfaced in the present as her violent father. One warring couple discovered they had been killing each other in four previous lifetimes together. The stories and the pattern go on and on. Pattern such as abusiveness can persist over many lifetimes if they are not recognized. When the recurring pattern has been recognized, when it causes have been understood, it can be broken. There is no sense in continuing pain. Regression therapy is extremely helpful in recognizing destructive pattern. Neither the therapist nor the patient has to believe in past lives for the technique and process of regression therapy to work. But if they try it, clinical improvement often results. Spiritual and personal growth almost always results.
We often seek out emotional situations that are similar to those we experienced in childhood, regardless of whether those experiences were positive or negative. Here is how the childhood pattern work:
When you are a young child, your home was the main source of love and safety. Even if there was violence or chaos in your household, it was still home – it was where you were fed and had a place to sleep. So you associate love with home. You also associate home with other characteristics, based on your experiences at home. For instance,
if your parents fought a lot, you might have an equation in your mind that says home = chaos. If you weren’t shown much love or affection, your equation might be home = loneliness.
If one of your parents was abusive, it might be home = fear.
So if A = B, and B = C, then A = C.
If love = home, and home = chaos, then love = chaos.
If love = home, and home = loneliness, then love = loneliness.
If love = home, and home = fear, then love = fear.
You unconsciously choose what is familiar. You might consciously seek a partner who was loving, but unconsciously attract someone who was critical.
A twenty-nine-year-old woman had a history of attracting irresponsible emotionally distant men. Ann’s association with home as follow:
Home = disappointment, denial, lack of communication about feelings, betrayal, dishonesty, abandonment.
It’s clear that Ann comes from a dysfunctional family. Substitute the word love for home, and you see Ann’s unconscious associations regarding love.
Love = disappointment, denial, lack of communication about feelings, betrayal, dishonesty, abandonment.
She continued to recreate the same emotional circumstances, because, as unpleasant as they might have been, they were what she was used to. Ann had left home physically but she hadn’t left home emotionally. When the recurring pattern has been recognized, when it causes have been understood, it can be broken.
Relationships are an ongoing learning, growing and experiential process. Very positive, loving relationships are not simply found; they have to be created. The ultimate purpose of our associations with one another is to help us stretch, change and grow. Ideally, through the process of having relationships, individuals would help one another become a better person for having had the opportunity of being together. A soul mate relationship is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again and again in various times and places. Even though the body maybe very different from the current one, the soul is the same.
Past Life Regression
In the regression the scene has a life on it own. And the details of remembered scenes become more and more clear with repetition. The memories evoked are not of abroad archetypes or categories but of tiniest details, often accompanied by powerful feelings and emotions. In this state, the person is observer as well as the person being observed. In fact, many people watch the past as if they are observing a movie. Despite of deep subconscious contact, your conscious mind is always aware of and observing what your are experiencing while you are in the state of focus relaxation. In this relaxed and focused state memory function is enhanced. People who are actively involved in a childhood or past-life sequence of memories are able to answer the therapist’s questions, speak their current-life language, know the geographical places they are seeing, and even know the year, which often flashes before their inner eyes or just appears in their mind.
People can remember events from the earliest days of their infancy, yet still speak perfect their current language. Why? Because they are remembering. They don’t actually become infants again and lose all of their adult physical and mental abilities.
There are four stages to regression: relaxation, back through time, exploring the past, and return to the present.
Relaxation
Lie down comfortably and make sure that you are wearing loose-fitting clothes. It is important to become as relaxed as possible. Taking a deep breaths and exhaling slowly is a good method, particularly if you silently tell yourself to relax each time you exhale. In relaxed and focused state memory function is enhanced.
The method I prefer is to slowly work my way through my body, relaxing every area in turn. I start with my toes and by the time I reach the top of my head I am totally relaxed. I do this by first becoming aware of my toes, and then relaxing them. I then become aware of my feet and relax them as much as possible. I then do the same thing with my ankles, calves, knees, thighs, abdomen, chest, and shoulders, before moving down first one arm and then the other. I then relax the muscles in my neck and face. Finally, I scan my entire body to see if any area is still tense. I then focus on relaxing that area. I usually spend a few moments enjoying the feeling of complete and total relaxation in every parts of my body. Even in our sleep we seldom achieve this state of complete and total relaxation. This relaxation exercises is extremely beneficial and is worth practicing. If we can relax our body completely six hours sleep a night is sufficient.
Back Through Time
Imagine yourself standing at the top of a beautiful staircase. It is the most beautiful staircase you have ever seen. You can feel the soft texture of the luxurious carpet beneath your feet. You feel the fresh polish wood of the handrail, and you decide that you are ready to walk down the staircase to explore one of your past lives.
There are ten steps, and as you hold the handrail and count from ten to one, simply allow yourself to double your relaxation with each step you take so that by the time you reach the bottom you’ll be totally, completely, absolutely limp, lose, and relaxed.
“Ten.” Double your relaxation as you move down one step.
“Nine.” Doubling your relaxation yet again.
“Eight.” Enjoying the feeling of warmth and peace and total relaxation.
“Seven.” Drifting down even more now into total relaxation.
“Six.” Another step down into this wonderful peaceful state.
“Five.” You are halfway down now, enjoying this wonderful, tranquil relaxation.
“Four.” More and more relaxed.
“Three . . .two . . . one.”
Feeling totally relaxed now as you step off the staircase into a beautiful hallway. It is warm, well-lit, and so peaceful. You walk along the hallway now, gazing curiously at all the doors on both sides of the hallway. Behind each door are the memories of one of your many past lives, and you can stop outside any door you wish.
You look at some of the doors more closely, but one door seems to have a greater fascination for you than the others. You pause outside this door, and then raise your hand to turn the handle. You open the door and step into one of your past lifetimes.
Explore Your Past Life
The past you have just returned to will be faint and hard to decipher at first. Simply pause and take a few deep breaths and allow it to come into better focus. Look down at your feet and see what footwear, if any, you are wearing. Then look at your clothing. See if you are male or female. Sense how your body feels. Does it feel young and full of life? Tired and weary? Warm or cold? This will give you some indication as to your age and state of health. Do you feel happy and contented with life?
Now look around and see if you are indoors or outdoors. Notice if anyone else with you. See what you are doing. Now that you are becoming familiar with your new environment, you can move back and forth in time within this past life. Decide what it is you want to experience, count one, two, and three to yourself, and you’ll instantly be transported to a new scene. You can explore any aspect of your life by thinking about it and counting up to three. Take as long as you wish to explore this past life.
Life was certainly more violent and dangerous in the past than it is for most of us nowadays. If a particular traumatic or difficult situation arises, you can always take a step back and observe it impartially. Some people handle the regression in a detached manner, but then cry afterward. This is an emotional release. Allow this release to take place if it occurs. We all carry a great deal of the past around with us, and it can be very emotional. Simply cry for as long as necessary. It is an emotional experience to find out who you were and what you were doing in a past life, and it is understandable that these feelings need to be released. Do not try to control or to suppress them.
Before you return to the present go to the last day of the lifetime you are exploring, by counting up to three you’ll instantly be transported to the scene. See what you are doing and who is with you. Find out if you have any regrets. Ask yourself what lessons you had to learn in that particular lifetime. Find out if there are any causes from the past life that is affecting your current life. Then see yourself pass over into spirit.
Move back and witness your death in a detached way if it is likely to cause pain or emotion. Look down on the physical body you have just left. This will give you some idea as how old you were and what your state of health when you died. You probably will experience a sense of release as you do this. Death itself was easy, but dying was not. Anyone with a terrible illness like cancer or AIDS may suffer intensely as the disease eats away at various organs of the physical body and slowly the life energy is also drained from the body. This can be quite painful. But when death arrives, there is no more pain or discomfort. Pain is physical condition, contained in the physical body. The memory of the condition might stay within a spirit’s mental body, but purely as a memory; the feeling of pain is gone. The condition will no longer have an effect on the health and well-being of the spirit body.
In this state the spirit has an immediate feeling of peace and freedom. Likewise, there is a strong sense of lightness and buoyancy because the weight and gravity of the physical body no longer exist. In most cases the transition is swift. The transition from the physical world to the spirit world is natural and painless. However our culture has built this event into one of immense fear. We need to realize that biological death is a doorway to life everlasting, and that there is more to come.
In the case of suicide, a spirit cannot be harmed. Anyone who forces himself to leave the body prematurely will find that, although he can destroy his body, he cannot destroy his soul. The spirit self remains very much alive. Not only is such a being alive, but also the problems that caused this act are still very much a part of its mental and emotional mindset. Once a spirit understands what it has done, it is usually filled with a sense of remorse and becomes depressed. There are many on the other side of life whose sole responsibility is to assist these trapped victims and lovingly escort them to areas where they receive proper comfort for their mental torture.
In a case of death by accident, violence, or natural disaster, etc. the spirit is forced out of the body so quickly that it barely realizes what has occurred. A spirit feels no physical pain from this kind of death. No spirit has ever said that it felt pain going through a windshield in a car crash, or felt the crush of a tumbling wall during an earthquake. In this kind of death a spirit is literally knock out so quickly that there is no time to register any discomfort or pain. By the time a spirit comprehends its situation, it is already gone from the physical body.
Sometimes the rapid transition of consciousness that results from a sudden or violent death can propel the dead into a startlingly new reality so quickly that the individual becomes extremely disoriented and refuses to accept the dramatic change. Just imagine: One moment you are driving home after a normal day of work, and the next you are forcefully ejected into a parallel reality where you are unable to communicate with the people you know and are unable to touch the surroundings that you are accustomed to. You feel fine, your body looks the same, but you are somehow separated from everything and everyone that you believe is real. In this scenario it is not uncommon for the accident victim to refuse spiritual assistance and to attempt to remain as close to the physical world as possible, clinging to the their last perception of reality. Spirits have often expressed anger at such untimely deaths; some even want revenge.
Depending on the particular passing, a person might lose consciousness, or has a spontaneous awareness that he is standing outside of his body and looking down at his lifeless body. Because this kind of death is a shock, and he is not prepared to make the transition, his spirit may stay at the scene and wander around to try to figure out what happened to him. He still feels very much alive and thinks he is a physical being until the realization sinks in that he is not. Spirit often tried to speak to the people around them and became disconcerted when no one answered back. Although we cannot hear the deceased, they are completely able to hear what we are saying and thinking (clairvoyance).
Return to the Present
Tell yourself that you will recall everything that occurred during regression, and that new memories will come into your conscious awareness in the next few days. Then bring yourself back to your current life by silently counting from one to five. Keep your eye close as you gradually return to the present. When you are ready, count to five again and open your eye.
Some people experience a past life on their first attempt, but other people need to repeat the exercise again and again before they finally succeed.
Doctor: “Has it been a good life?”
Joan tossed her head and grimed.
Debbie: “Had its moments.” Her voice sounded old, tired, and rasping as if she’d smoked a pack of cigarettes everyday of her life.”
Doctor: “What was the best time?”
Joan smiled in reminiscence.
Debbie: “When I was eighteen, in Central Park. With Herbie.” She coughed and shook her head. “Poor Herbie.” Doctor: “Who was Herbie?”
Debbie: “Friend.”
Doctor: “That’s all, just friend?”
Joan giggled, and for a second seemed to be eighteen again. Then her face appeared to be age again.
Debbie: “I love him.”
Doctor: “Good. And did he love you?”
Debbie: “Of course.” Joan sounded indignant.
Doctor: “Did you marry him?”
Debbie: “No.” Joan appeared to be getting upset, when she added, “He’s Jewish.”
Doctor: “And that means you can’t marry him?”
Joan nodded.
Doctor: “Who did you marry?”
Debbie: “Tommy Person.”
Doctor: “Was it good marriage?”
The marriage seemed to be neither good nor bad. They had two children, Walter and Edward. Tommy worked hard as a baker, and eventually owned his own business. He never made much money, but he was a good father and always managed to provide the necessities of life. They were married for almost forty years and only ever had two vacations. One was to Chicago to see the World’s Fair, and the other one was sounded like Duesbury. Both vacations were one week long. His husband died two days after his sixtieth birthday. Their older son, Walter, took over the bakery. He was a good worker but a poor businessman, and the business failed a few years later. This caused a major rift in the family and his younger brother Edward, who worked in the bank, refused to have anything to do with him.
Debbie: “Christmas day I see one boy, and then the other. Never together. One in the evening, the other one in the afternoon. It’s cruel, but families are cruel.”
Doctor: “Did you ever see Herbie again ?”
Joan’s eyes sparkled and a smile briefly played on her lips.
Debbie: “Once.” In Central Park. Walter and Edward were small, maybe six and four. It was Sunday afternoon, and we were walking, enjoying the sunshine as it had been a long winter. A family outing. I looked across at a park bench and there was Herbie with his arm around a beautiful woman with long dark hair. They looked very happy. Our eyes met and I blushed, and then they walked away. Tommy didn’t notice anything. I’ve often thought of that day and wondered who the beautiful woman was.” Joan bit her lip and appeared pensive. “I hope he had a happy life.”
Joan was now waiting for her death.
Debbie: “My friends are gone, and my only family are the boys and their children. I see them occasionally. I sit at my window and watch the world go by. Sometimes the days are long, but usually I fall asleep in my chair. Mr. Bernstein next door looks after me. He shops and tells me long story about his childhood. He’s a nice man.”
Doctor: “I’d now like you to go to the last day of your life.”
Debbie: “I’m in my chair at the window. I’ve got a pain.”
Doctor: “Where?”
Debbie: “Something wrong with my heart.”
Doctor: “What are you doing?”
Debbie: “Nothing.”
Doctor: “Why don’t you ask Mr. Bernstein to help?”
Debbie: “He’s dead.”
Doctor: “Who else can help?”
Debbie: “I don’t want help. I’m ready to go.”
Doctor: “Then, go ahead?”
Debbie: “I’m still there.”
Doctor: “Yes, you are seeing something?” A minute or two passed before she answered.
Debbie: “I’m just floating,” she whispered softly.
Doctor: “Have your left your body now?”
Debbie: “Yes, I’m just floating.”
Doctor: “What does the process of moving out of your body look like?”
Debbie: “Well, it’s as if I shed my skin . . . pealing a banana. I just lose my body in one swoosh!”
People associate death as losing life force when actually the opposite is true. When an individual leaves the physical world, he or she leaves behind a heavy, dense body that has inhabited an equally dense, heavy world. Such a transition can be compared to removing a winter overcoat, or a snake soughing off its outer skin. When we die, we are finished using our biological vehicle that is worn out, and so we let it go. Nothing is lost except the worn out physical body. The complete soul remains intact; we are still very much alive and well. There is a strong sense of lightness and buoyancy because the weight and gravity of the physical body no longer exist. Our personality, with all its memory, feelings, likes, dislikes, emotions, and desires, stay the same. Unseen intelligent energy forces guide each of us through the gate. Our guides and a number of soulmates and friends wait for us close to the gateway to provide recognition, affection, and the assurance we are all right.
Doctor: “Can you see the body you’ve just left?”
Debbie: “Yes, It’s so small!.” Joan smiled.
Doctor: “Is there anyone else there?” Joan shook her head.
Doctor: “Do you know now what you need to learn?”
Most people need to think about their question before answering it, but Debbie’s reply was instant.
Debbie: “Follow your dreams. Don’t let other people influence you. Don’t settle for second best.”
After a few seconds she woke up. She was surprised with her past life. It’s not what she expected at all.
Debbie: “I thought I’d married to the man of my dreams.”
Doctor: “So you’ll marry for love this time?”
Debbie laughed:
Debbie: “This time I’ll marry Herbie.”
Doctor: “Did you recognize him?”
Debbie shook her head.
Debbie: “No. I haven’t met him yet. But we’re meant to be together. I’ll recognize him when we meet each other.”
Doctor: “He’s your soul mate?”
Debbie: “You know, in that regression I felt that I had known Herbie for many, many lifetimes. We seemed to be so close, and yet we were not allowed to be together. It seemed so cruel.” She shook her head. “This won’t happen this time.”
A primary, or principle soulmate is frequently in our life as closely bonded partner. This partnership may be our spouse, brother, or sister, a best friend, or occasionally a parent. No other soul is more important to us than a primary soulmate and when people describe lives with these souls as their mates most will say their existence is enriched beyond measure. Our primary soulmate is our eternal partner. He or she is the one you have lived many lives together for hundreds, or even thousands, of years in previous incarnations.
Companion soulmates play important support roles in our lives and we do the same thing for them. These souls have differences in character and a variety of talents which complement each other.
There is a big difference between physical desire and soul cooperation and companionship. If a relationship or marriage is based primarily upon physical desire and gratification, it could not succeed. Instead, a successful relationship had to contain a joint spiritual/soul prompting that united the couple in service to one another. A healthy relationship includes physical attraction and desires also, but it was much more. It is the recognition that you have what that person needs for his or her soul to grow and your partner has what you need. It is knowing that this is the person you are here to grow in love with, that this is the person you are here to share your heart and learn the lessons of life with. One way of saying it is, “I don’t know why, but somehow we are supposed to be together. In my most clear and loving moments, this is what I know to be true.” There is a feeling of safety and trust far greater than could be earned in only one day or one week or one month. Soul recognition transcends verbal description. There is an intuitive knowing, a knowledge of the heart. The soul just knows.
While the couple will still experience the normal challenges that any two people who understand each other would experience, there is a deep mental connection they keep coming back to that helps them overcome the inevitable conflicts, frustrations and disappointments in any relationship.
Ultimately, the purpose of all relationship is personal and spiritual development. Ask yourself,
Does this relationship make me a better person?
Does it challenge and stretch me?
Does it encourage me to become a more balanced and a giving person?
Most important, does this relationship bring out the very best within me?
In spite of the attraction a couple might feel for one another, the union would not best for the personal and spiritual development of either or both individuals if they are not compatible, because soon or later the problem will emerge. Writing down compatibility list as a partner choice guide is significant in helping you avoid partner you don’t need and recognize partner you need.
Each individual has multiple soul mates with whom she or he can make a successful relationship in the present. Obviously, each choice leads to different potentials and a different experiences and different outcomes. Some choices are ultimately better than the others.
The soul mate condition is not just contained within sexual relationships. Each of us has different types of soul mate relationships. Some of those relationships might manifest in the present-life with various members of our family, and friends with whom there is a deep bond and connection. The indication of soul mate is that there is always a deep bond and mental connection, whether they are our partner, family members, friends or relatives. We connect with people on many levels for a multitude of karmic lessons in every life.
A soul mate relationship is NOT a relationship in which there are never any difficulties or challenges. The soul mate will offer you problems and obstacles just as you will offer the same things in return. A soul mate is someone with whom you can work through life’s challenges and difficulties. Especially if the couple has children, they will have their share of difficulties and challenges. Together, they experience the normal ups and down of any marriage but there is a deep bond and mental connection, which keep them together and as long as they work together they would be able to bring out the best in the other and gain for themselves those developments that bring peace, joy and happiness. Soul mate relationships create an opportunity for personal growth, personal fulfillment and service to each other. The unison of purpose is significant because together all can be accomplished, alone nothing may be accomplished. The lesson we must learn from human relationships is accepting people for who they are without expecting our happiness to be to much dependent upon anyone. Relationships between people are the most vital part of our lives.
To know ourselves spiritually means understanding why we joined in life with the souls of parents, siblings, spouse, and close friends. They are individuals who were destined to have an impact in our lives. Remember, along with learning our own lessons, we come to earth to play a part in the drama of others’ lesson as well. Overcoming adversity in these relationships may mean we won’t have to repeat certain abrasive alliances in future lives.
Family members had been drawn together for a purpose experience. Whether they have learned something or not, it is a matter of free will. By being with one another, each had been provided with the opportunity to evolve, to grow and to become a better person in the process.
Between earthly incarnations a soul takes stock of all it has come to know as well as all it needs to learn in this ongoing process of personal growth and development. Once this evaluation process is complete and the individual soul has decided what lessons might possibly be achieved next on the soul’s agenda, the soul waits for the proper timing and location that will best provide the opportunities the soul need to experience. A soul chooses other individual souls with whom it has been associated before in the previous lives, and suddenly the present-day family grouping is created.
We travel in very large “families” of relations, friends and even enemies, and as we make the conscious decision to return to the earth we will assign each other roles, depending on the lessons that need to be learned here. Group of souls tend to reincarnate together again and again, working on their karma. Personal wholeness is achieved as each soul completes each lesson in soul growth and personal transformation.
Reincarnation is of real value and importance in the hereafter. While souls’ spiritual growth continues in hereafter, it is at a much slower pace than on earth. There, unencumbered by hardship and strife, their spiritual growth occurs quietly and peaceful. Much more spiritual growth can happen on the earth, because the spiritual lessons come in the form of learning through hardship and adversity. We accomplish on earth in seventy or eighty years what it might take perhaps ten times longer in the hereafter to learn – thus the decision to return.
The decision to come back to the earth is a very long process in the hereafter because the souls continue learning and understanding in a place far less crazy than the earth. We do choose our next life on the earth, not so much by what we would like but rather what lessons we can learn from that lifetime.
One thing is certain: we have created the reality we have so that we may learn. In the first painful moments of tragedy, people inevitably ask, “Why did this have to happen?” We need to ask, “What lesson am I fulfilling from learning from my life’s spiritual course?” Bad things don’t happen to people. We must understand that tragedy is not for punishment. There are no accidents in the universe, no matter how random things on the earth might look. There are merely scripts, written by us before we arrive here to be played out and learned from the best we know.
Once the play has begun most of us don’t know we are in a play until it’s over, due to a variety of amnesiac blocks. The outcome of one’s performance in the play may range from very satisfactory to acceptable to unsatisfactory. The whole process of reincarnation is indeed a game. A game called life.
Amnesia is imposed upon us when we come into a current life, so that past life experiences, memories, and behavior related to the previous personalities do not interfere with the development of the present personality.
In past life regression you may identify people in your past life who are important to you in this lifetime. Someone who was your wife in past life might be your son or mother in this lifetime. The relationships and sexes change, but the person will be instantly recognizable. If this happens, you will notice a subtle positive change in your relationship with these people in the future. You will become more accepting and understanding of them. You will realize that they are in your present life to help you learn some important lessons. And in the same way, they will be learning from you.
If we have just come off an easy life, making little interpersonal progress, our soul might want to choose a person/life in the next time cycle who will face heartache and perhaps tragedy. It is not out of the ordinary that someone who has skated through an unchallenging life overloading themselves with turmoil in the next one to catch up with their learning goals.
The purpose of reincarnation is the exercise of free will. By surviving different challenges our soul identity is strengthened. Without this ability, we would be impotent creatures indeed. Reincarnation is a universal reality. It is highly effective method used by soul for the purpose of learning and evolution. We evolve by and through personal experience. The most effective method to truly know something is to become it, to live it. We actually become that which we wish to learn. Souls who are still incarnating are far from perfect.
The principle of karma, or cause and effect, is an effective learning tool for soul. Evolution is enhanced by self-created lessons. We will reap the effects of what we have created, good or bad. The cycle of cause and effect may extend through many lifetimes. The length of time spent on earth is merely an illusion because it is a limitation of the physical body and the physical world. In truth, one lifetime is a very small period of time in the grand scheme of existence. Through karma, a spirit is enabled to obtain the real-life experiences it requires to progress spiritually through living experience via multiple reincarnations into the physical dimension. Karma allows a spirit to maintain a healthy spiritual balance, life after life, and helps avoid the possibility of soul corruption. Karma is not a process of reward and punishment. Karma provides spiritual harmony through a process of enforced spiritual balance.
In spite of the fact that past-life experiences can create probabilities and potentials, it is what individuals do with their free will in the present that shapes the course of their lives. Whenever the individual used the will in a positive direction, he or she could overcome all manner of difficulty and literally change his or her life experience. No urge, no influence, no experience, no environment is greater than the birthright of an individual - the WILL of the individual.
I came to an intriguing irony. The more potential a person has, the more impossible it is for that individual to reach his or her potentials in a single given lifetime. There is too little time on earth to manifest it all. You would realize that life in your physical body, relatively speaking, reflects just a brief moment in time. At the moment of realization, I gave up trying to “reach all my potentials.” I decided that it was more reasonable to make choices in life and to focus on the interests that are most precious and prized. We do not need to worry about cramming every bit of experience into our current physical life. Through future reincarnation we wouldn’t be wasting the talents and abilities we have been blessed with.
As you choose your experiences in between earthly incarnation, you have access to all the spiritual knowledge you’ve gained throughout all your lifetimes, and you use that awareness to help you make your choices. Sometimes, you’re assisted by guardian spirits who offer advice on what might be best for you, but ultimately, the choice is yours. You create your circumstances, so that you may learn; you set up your challenges and make connections by setting up synchronous occurrences on the earth plane. It is extremely important to pay serious attention to the coincidences and the synchronicities experiences in our lives because they often represent the convergence of our spiritual plan and the actual path we are traveling during our lifetime.
Everything in your present life was created by you before birth. Nothing has been left to chance or forced upon you. The only thing you do not choose is the outcome of what you agree to experience.
The idea that a soul would purposely choose a harmful or an abusive family relationship may be impossible for some people to comprehend. However, the soul is most concerned with the possibly of what might come out of the situation rather than with the specifics of the situation itself. It is true that this choice is highly risky because many individuals fail in overcoming the obstacles caused by childhood abuse but if successful the soul will grow into maturity, depth, strength and understanding more rapidly. It is not so important what happens to you in life but how you decide to deal with what happened to you that is important. Often the most important lessons arise from the most difficult times. At a soul level, we choose life situations that will best enable us to learn and fulfill the purpose for which we came into the earth at this time. Whether or not those lessons are learned, however, remains a matter of free will.
Souls choose bodies for a reason. Living in a handicapped body does not necessarily have to involve a karmic debt we are paying off because of past life responsibility for an injury to someone else. This choice can involve a learning path to another type of lesson. He or she has
an opportunity to advance at a faster rate than those of us with healthy bodies. This knowledge must come through self-discovery. The effort necessary to overcome body impediment and adversities does accelerate advancement. Overcoming the obstacles of physical ailments and hurt makes us stronger for ordeal. Souls know in advance about the specific karmic lessons they will face and how they would benefit from living a burdensome life.
Life on this plane is not so much a gift as it is a training of faith and endurance. There are some people who do feel that it is wonderful here, but if you asked most people for an honest answer, they would have to say otherwise. Life is hard for a reason. We have to go through these struggles so that we will benefit from our lessons.
Life is structured on the basic of cosmic principles. All obstacles are lessons in disguise. Honor and learn from them. Obstacles are put in our path to be our greatest teachers. Hidden within them are the exact lessons our soul needs to learn. We grow most from difficulties and not as much from good times. Each one of our obstacles made us stronger and more courageous and deepened our faith in the perfection of the mysterious way in that the universe works. The challenges are the very events which will help us grow the most because nothing is more effective in showing us where we are stuck, where we need to work, where we need to grow, and what lessons we need to learn than the obstacles that cross our path. In bad times we can learn and grow more and in good times we can enjoy the life more.
If there is no challenges and difficulties in life and if everything you needed comes to you without effort on your part, then there is no reason for the soul to come to the earth. Why not just stay in heaven, where – there are free of death, disease, decay, crime, sufferings, and so on. Progress and growth (maturity, patience, depth, understanding, etc.) are made by overcoming the difficulties of our everyday life. The physical plane is designed to be training grounds for the soul development/evolution. For the sake of gaining experience on its path to perfection, the soul incarnates again and again. It is clear that regardless of how long it may take, eventually each individual will be prompted to overcome negative behaviors through a series of personal life experiences.
The evolution of souls involves a transition from imperfection to perfection based upon overcoming many difficult life assignments during our task-oriented lives. Souls may also have a predisposition for selecting environments where they consistently don’t work well, or are subverted. Thus, souls may have their identity damaged by poor life choices. However, all souls are held accountable for their conduct in the bodies they occupy. What goes around truly does come around.
Ultimately, there is no such thing as a “victim,” unless an individual choose to respond as such. All of life’s challenges and difficulties have the potential to be of great assistance in the process of spiritual growth and personal transformation.
We’ve created the karmic momentum in our lives and we have chosen how this momentum is even now moving toward resolution. No matter how difficult or seemingly inexplicable our lives may be, everything in them is there for our own benefit. We are all in the same boat – we are all struggling and learning here. Nothing that happens on the earth is meaningless to the story of our journey here, and everything has a purpose, even if it can’t be immediately seen by us. Sometimes the most profound understanding of life cannot happen until we have left the earth and can see why the world dealt us the circumstances it did. There are no victims on the earth – only students.
During pregnancy, the soul about to enter this world becomes equipped with the thing it will need here – a warm blooded body to adapt itself to living productively on the earth. It is very much like astronaut who needs a special suit to adapt to a different atmosphere. At the time of death, those things we needed on earth can now be discarded since they will not be needed to exist in the hereafter. We will continue with only what we will need – our spirit body and consciousness.
By living on the earth, we have become so easily disarmed by the circumstances of life here and the struggles we have to endure. We are on earth to learn strength in our adversity, to learn peace in our struggle, to learn joy in our sorrow – we are here to learn. This is the understanding that leads us to knowledge, and to our knowledge that leads us back to the Garden – back to our home.
This world is ageless and so too are our learning tasks. We will be given other challenges after previous ones in our struggles for growth. It is hard for us, but that’s why we come to earth . . . to overcome difficulties. We tend to regard any trouble that comes our way as a personal attack against us – against our happiness. The souls in hereafter know very well that the difficulties we endure while we are on the earth – and how we cope with and overcome them – will be perhaps the toughest experience in life on earth. They also know that these trials are a necessary part of our lives to fulfill the goals we had set for ourselves when we last left the Garden. The souls in hereafter know and they understand, because they themselves were once part of the challenge of life on earth.
Achieving our goals here will take constant care and tending in order to produce a great and lasting beauty. Think of your life, not as you thought it would be, but think of your life the way you live it now. What we make of our lifetime here will be entirely up to us.
Life on the earth is more a voyage of self-discovery than it is a discovery of people and things around us. The more we learn about ourselves, the more we understand the world around us. While we are here, we will create so many of the struggles we endure, but they do have a meaning and a purpose – it will up to us to recognize it. Our mission on the earth is simple – to leave behind a garden of our own making on earth. The reward is not so much the garden (our creation/results) but it’s having created it.
Nothing, no meeting comes by chance. There is a design or pattern. These pattern, however, are laid out by the individual. For, there are laws. The Akashic Records are the impulse that draws to us exactly what we need, exactly when we need it. Just as is suggested by the old adage, “when the student is ready, the teacher present him- or herself.” The Akashic Records
are the force that brings individuals together to learn from one another. They are tools that enable individuals to meet themselves (self-created lessons – cause and effect) and to become the very best they can be.
The Akashic Records can be liked to the universe’s supercomputer system. “Akasha” comes from a Sanskrit word meaning “boundless space.” And is equated to the storehouse of all information for every individual who has ever lived. More than just reservoir of events, the Akashic Records contain every deed, word, feeling, thought, and intent that has occurred at any time in the history of the world. Much more than simply a memory storehouse, these Akashic Records are interactive; they have a tremendous influence upon our every life, our relationships, our feeling and belief system, and potential and probabilities we draw toward us.
The soul is destined to grow and whatever it takes to bring this growth in consciousness is exactly what the Askashic Records will continually draw toward the soul. Whether or not the lesson is learned in the present becomes of free choice, but if they are not learned, they will simply be presented again and again in various ways until they are learned and mastered. Those who do not learn from their mistakes are doomed to repeat them. The earth is literally a “cause and effect” classroom in which each individual constantly has the opportunity to meet self and apply spiritual principles in the material world. An individual’s growth depends primarily on how well he or she deals with the opportunities and circumstances that present themselves in daily life. The past may predispose individuals to certain situations or events, but the ways in which they deal with the present is what determine the course of their futures.
Soulmates are drawn together in the right timing, for a purposeful reason, sometimes almost in spite of themselves. They say, “It is a feeling as if we had known each other a very long time.” As their relationship progress, they will then usually say, “It is truly as if we have known each other forever. It is the bond between us that is eternal, no matter what else was going on in our lives. Our love and acceptance go beyond the realm of this lifetime.“ The force that motivates each soul through time and space is the essence of love. Love transcends time. Love is the strongest force in the world. All of our important relationships in the present-life had their foundation in the past-life.
There may be reason why we might not meet our primary soulmate until later in life. Soulmates will from time to time separate for a life or two and not appear at all.
“My soulmate and I were too dependent upon each other, we needed to grow a while on our own.” This statement is often heard from patients doing the LBL (Live Between Lives) regression when soulmates are apart. www.spiritualregression.com
If the right love for you does not come along, liberate yourself with the understanding that you may be here to learn other lessons. We mistakenly assume people who choose to live alone are lonely when actually they have rich lives that are calm, reflective and productive. Connecting with someone for whom you have no feelings just for the sake of not being alone is lonelier than being by yourself. If your soulmate is suppose to appear they will come into your life, often when you least expect it.
A soul mate relationship is a deep bond that is unshakable and irreplaceable. It is an inner knowing that this person is someone special sent into your life to cherish, experience things with and share things together. It is not always a smooth, happy road, but the bond is there no matter what pitfalls or experiences may be. Patterns can be detected and made stronger or changed. Because of the bond that you have, you are willing to see shortcomings and make self-improvement. In this way lessons are learned and spiritual and personal growth take place.
A young South American woman has been very scared of losing her boyfriend since she met him. It was not normal, though, because even suicide went through her mind. There is no logic reason behind this fear because her boyfriend showed her so many times how much he loves her.
In the regression she could see herself sitting on a starry road. It was 1679, in France. The year was flashed before her mind eye. She was French and her name was Marie-Claire. She was around twenty years old and very pretty, with long black hair. She was wearing brown rags and sandals. This gave her the idea she was very poor. She had a baby in her arms and she was crying non-stop. Then she saw someone else in the scene: She recognizes him as her boyfriend in today’s life. He was around forty years old at that time in France, and very tall and skinny. He was also desperately crying. The two guards came into the scene and pulled him away from her. She saw him reaching out his hand for her and screaming for the guards to let him go. After this regression she now aware where the “unreasonable” fear of losing her boyfriend came from. Her relationship with her boyfriend improved and the fear to lose him reduced rapidly.
Often the events in the distant past are still influencing current relationships. Becoming aware of the root causes in prior lives can heal the relationship in the present. Certain fears and patterns would resurface, in her case “irrational” fear of unwanted and tragic separation, because this trauma had happened before, three hundred years ago in France. One of the karmic tasks was to overcome her fear of separation by understanding that love is an absolute energy and that love never ends, not even with the death of the physical body. We are always reunited with our loved ones. Sometimes the reunion occurs on the other side, in other dimensions; sometimes the reunion takes place in a future lifetime together, back here on earth. Love is what survives our physical bodies on the earth, and it is a gift that cannot be taken away. No matter what divides us on the earth, our spiritual bond is permanent and enduring. Love is the only bond that can never be broken, here and hereafter.
Awareness and understanding are indeed powerful healing forces. It is an understanding of how life works and relationships are ever renewed. It is an understanding of how we never really lose our loved ones. The two did not meet again by accident or by coincident. Before they were even born again into their present-day bodies, they had already agreed to meet at a certain time in their lives. They would meet, they would “recognize” each other at some deeper level as soul companions through time, and then they would have to make decisions about the future of their relationship in this incarnation.
We are spiritual being having human experience. Our body is just a vehicle for us while we are here. It is our soul that last forever. Our lives are not the result of random actions and events. Lifetimes are wisely and carefully scripted to enhance our learning and evolution of our souls.
We are immortal beings who never die and are never emotionally separated from those we love. We have eternal soulmates and soul families. We are forever guided and loved by guardian spirits. We are never alone. When we reawaken to the knowledge that we are all spiritual beings, then our values shift and we can finally become happy and peaceful. Only the treasures of spirit (knowledge, wisdom, character, friendship or love) can be retained and not material acquisitions. Happiness has not rooted in power or fame, only in love and kindness. Happiness comes from within, not from without and not from the reflection of what others think of you.
In vacation we enjoy the fullest freedom to do what we want to do at a given moment. But true fulfillment comes only from creativities, from our true expressions and soulful relationship. Soulful relationship is a true joy.
We must be very careful when we believe that power, money, and fame will make us better people, and then run blindly in search of what we perceive is “success” on the earth. Handling success and growing spiritually is one of the lessons many will have to endure in their lifetime on earth. Of course you can succeed in your work, you can reach the top and become the best, without limits. Just be certain that it comes out of the expanse of your inner growth and not at its expense. Think of your work not as a place to make a living but as an opportunity to learn and grow. Think of yourself as a channel through which creative activities flow, and there is no limit. Wonderful ideas and boundless energies will flow forth easily through you, making you indispensable and appreciated in your work. We have erroneous belief of success as “getting there,” while actually success is “earning the right to be there.” And earning means learning. Setbacks, even failures, may be an important part of that learning. We must live through our experiences in order to gain wisdom and fly higher.
In the three-dimensional world we all know that we cannot take things with us when we leave but we take our behaviors, our habits, our knowledge and our character with us. We may gain and lose many material objects during the course of our lifetime. But we will not meet our possessions in the afterlife. We will meet our loved ones. How we treat our loved ones and others in relationships is infinitely more important than what we have accumulated materially.
If you are in conflict about spending more time with your children, for example, versus getting a bigger house, and you take a view that transcends physical death, it becomes easy to determine which is more important. This insight would enables us stop looking to outside societal pressure as our life’s primary guides. If we could fully accept that the goal of obtaining material possessions is less important than the quality of time we spend with the ones we love, we would be happier and healthier. Having loving relationship appears to bring the added blessing of better health. Then when we die, we will be aware that our life continues and we will be relieved to discover that the choices we made were wise one.
Life is endless, so we never die. We just pass through different phases. There is no end. Time is not as we see time, but rather lessons learned. Recognizing our spiritual nature, our value began to shift toward the spiritual and away from the material, more toward people and relationships and less toward accumulating things. We become more aware of what we take with us (knowledge, wisdom, character, friendship or love) and what we don’t.
A greater understanding of the nature of our life and soul leads to positive changes in the present life and your life will be permanently transformed. Expressing love, compassion, understanding, and kindness in everyday life becomes more significant. With this mental attitude you will inevitably experience better physical and emotional health, healthier relationships, more happiness and joy. You will approach obstacles and frustrations in your life with more patience and calm. Because you understand your true nature and your true purpose you will feel fulfilled and no longer confused or lost. You will learn to overcome anxiety, fear, and grief. You will live your life more fully in the present moment, and you will enjoy its pleasures more completely.
People are drawn together because of their experiences in the past, but what individuals do about those past-life experiences (karmic memory) is entirely dependent upon the activities and choices of the present. Individuals are drawn together for purposeful experience. Essentially, that purpose is to resolve issues and challenges that were created in the past-life as well as to continue any positive interactions that were begun with one another. Good or bad our relationships pick up exactly where we left them off. There is a continuity of former patterns, purposes and ideals. We are not destined to eternally repeat the same patterns and inclinations. Instead, the soul is constantly in the process of evolving onward, but that evolution begins from the point where it left off. Every era on earth is different as to the sort of attachment and experience we will have with our soulmates. However, each life with them builds upon former lives.
The pattern of our relationship with one another is destined to be repeated until they are healed. For example, one patient remembered a violently abusive husband in a past life who has surfaced in the present as her violent father. One warring couple discovered they had been killing each other in four previous lifetimes together. The stories and the pattern go on and on. Pattern such as abusiveness can persist over many lifetimes if they are not recognized. When the recurring pattern has been recognized, when it causes have been understood, it can be broken. There is no sense in continuing pain. Regression therapy is extremely helpful in recognizing destructive pattern. Neither the therapist nor the patient has to believe in past lives for the technique and process of regression therapy to work. But if they try it, clinical improvement often results. Spiritual and personal growth almost always results.
We often seek out emotional situations that are similar to those we experienced in childhood, regardless of whether those experiences were positive or negative. Here is how the childhood pattern work:
When you are a young child, your home was the main source of love and safety. Even if there was violence or chaos in your household, it was still home – it was where you were fed and had a place to sleep. So you associate love with home. You also associate home with other characteristics, based on your experiences at home. For instance,
if your parents fought a lot, you might have an equation in your mind that says home = chaos. If you weren’t shown much love or affection, your equation might be home = loneliness.
If one of your parents was abusive, it might be home = fear.
So if A = B, and B = C, then A = C.
If love = home, and home = chaos, then love = chaos.
If love = home, and home = loneliness, then love = loneliness.
If love = home, and home = fear, then love = fear.
You unconsciously choose what is familiar. You might consciously seek a partner who was loving, but unconsciously attract someone who was critical.
A twenty-nine-year-old woman had a history of attracting irresponsible emotionally distant men. Ann’s association with home as follow:
Home = disappointment, denial, lack of communication about feelings, betrayal, dishonesty, abandonment.
It’s clear that Ann comes from a dysfunctional family. Substitute the word love for home, and you see Ann’s unconscious associations regarding love.
Love = disappointment, denial, lack of communication about feelings, betrayal, dishonesty, abandonment.
She continued to recreate the same emotional circumstances, because, as unpleasant as they might have been, they were what she was used to. Ann had left home physically but she hadn’t left home emotionally. When the recurring pattern has been recognized, when it causes have been understood, it can be broken.
Relationships are an ongoing learning, growing and experiential process. Very positive, loving relationships are not simply found; they have to be created. The ultimate purpose of our associations with one another is to help us stretch, change and grow. Ideally, through the process of having relationships, individuals would help one another become a better person for having had the opportunity of being together. A soul mate relationship is an ongoing connection with another individual that the soul picks up again and again in various times and places. Even though the body maybe very different from the current one, the soul is the same.
Past Life Regression
In the regression the scene has a life on it own. And the details of remembered scenes become more and more clear with repetition. The memories evoked are not of abroad archetypes or categories but of tiniest details, often accompanied by powerful feelings and emotions. In this state, the person is observer as well as the person being observed. In fact, many people watch the past as if they are observing a movie. Despite of deep subconscious contact, your conscious mind is always aware of and observing what your are experiencing while you are in the state of focus relaxation. In this relaxed and focused state memory function is enhanced. People who are actively involved in a childhood or past-life sequence of memories are able to answer the therapist’s questions, speak their current-life language, know the geographical places they are seeing, and even know the year, which often flashes before their inner eyes or just appears in their mind.
People can remember events from the earliest days of their infancy, yet still speak perfect their current language. Why? Because they are remembering. They don’t actually become infants again and lose all of their adult physical and mental abilities.
There are four stages to regression: relaxation, back through time, exploring the past, and return to the present.
Relaxation
Lie down comfortably and make sure that you are wearing loose-fitting clothes. It is important to become as relaxed as possible. Taking a deep breaths and exhaling slowly is a good method, particularly if you silently tell yourself to relax each time you exhale. In relaxed and focused state memory function is enhanced.
The method I prefer is to slowly work my way through my body, relaxing every area in turn. I start with my toes and by the time I reach the top of my head I am totally relaxed. I do this by first becoming aware of my toes, and then relaxing them. I then become aware of my feet and relax them as much as possible. I then do the same thing with my ankles, calves, knees, thighs, abdomen, chest, and shoulders, before moving down first one arm and then the other. I then relax the muscles in my neck and face. Finally, I scan my entire body to see if any area is still tense. I then focus on relaxing that area. I usually spend a few moments enjoying the feeling of complete and total relaxation in every parts of my body. Even in our sleep we seldom achieve this state of complete and total relaxation. This relaxation exercises is extremely beneficial and is worth practicing. If we can relax our body completely six hours sleep a night is sufficient.
Back Through Time
Imagine yourself standing at the top of a beautiful staircase. It is the most beautiful staircase you have ever seen. You can feel the soft texture of the luxurious carpet beneath your feet. You feel the fresh polish wood of the handrail, and you decide that you are ready to walk down the staircase to explore one of your past lives.
There are ten steps, and as you hold the handrail and count from ten to one, simply allow yourself to double your relaxation with each step you take so that by the time you reach the bottom you’ll be totally, completely, absolutely limp, lose, and relaxed.
“Ten.” Double your relaxation as you move down one step.
“Nine.” Doubling your relaxation yet again.
“Eight.” Enjoying the feeling of warmth and peace and total relaxation.
“Seven.” Drifting down even more now into total relaxation.
“Six.” Another step down into this wonderful peaceful state.
“Five.” You are halfway down now, enjoying this wonderful, tranquil relaxation.
“Four.” More and more relaxed.
“Three . . .two . . . one.”
Feeling totally relaxed now as you step off the staircase into a beautiful hallway. It is warm, well-lit, and so peaceful. You walk along the hallway now, gazing curiously at all the doors on both sides of the hallway. Behind each door are the memories of one of your many past lives, and you can stop outside any door you wish.
You look at some of the doors more closely, but one door seems to have a greater fascination for you than the others. You pause outside this door, and then raise your hand to turn the handle. You open the door and step into one of your past lifetimes.
Explore Your Past Life
The past you have just returned to will be faint and hard to decipher at first. Simply pause and take a few deep breaths and allow it to come into better focus. Look down at your feet and see what footwear, if any, you are wearing. Then look at your clothing. See if you are male or female. Sense how your body feels. Does it feel young and full of life? Tired and weary? Warm or cold? This will give you some indication as to your age and state of health. Do you feel happy and contented with life?
Now look around and see if you are indoors or outdoors. Notice if anyone else with you. See what you are doing. Now that you are becoming familiar with your new environment, you can move back and forth in time within this past life. Decide what it is you want to experience, count one, two, and three to yourself, and you’ll instantly be transported to a new scene. You can explore any aspect of your life by thinking about it and counting up to three. Take as long as you wish to explore this past life.
Life was certainly more violent and dangerous in the past than it is for most of us nowadays. If a particular traumatic or difficult situation arises, you can always take a step back and observe it impartially. Some people handle the regression in a detached manner, but then cry afterward. This is an emotional release. Allow this release to take place if it occurs. We all carry a great deal of the past around with us, and it can be very emotional. Simply cry for as long as necessary. It is an emotional experience to find out who you were and what you were doing in a past life, and it is understandable that these feelings need to be released. Do not try to control or to suppress them.
Before you return to the present go to the last day of the lifetime you are exploring, by counting up to three you’ll instantly be transported to the scene. See what you are doing and who is with you. Find out if you have any regrets. Ask yourself what lessons you had to learn in that particular lifetime. Find out if there are any causes from the past life that is affecting your current life. Then see yourself pass over into spirit.
Move back and witness your death in a detached way if it is likely to cause pain or emotion. Look down on the physical body you have just left. This will give you some idea as how old you were and what your state of health when you died. You probably will experience a sense of release as you do this. Death itself was easy, but dying was not. Anyone with a terrible illness like cancer or AIDS may suffer intensely as the disease eats away at various organs of the physical body and slowly the life energy is also drained from the body. This can be quite painful. But when death arrives, there is no more pain or discomfort. Pain is physical condition, contained in the physical body. The memory of the condition might stay within a spirit’s mental body, but purely as a memory; the feeling of pain is gone. The condition will no longer have an effect on the health and well-being of the spirit body.
In this state the spirit has an immediate feeling of peace and freedom. Likewise, there is a strong sense of lightness and buoyancy because the weight and gravity of the physical body no longer exist. In most cases the transition is swift. The transition from the physical world to the spirit world is natural and painless. However our culture has built this event into one of immense fear. We need to realize that biological death is a doorway to life everlasting, and that there is more to come.
In the case of suicide, a spirit cannot be harmed. Anyone who forces himself to leave the body prematurely will find that, although he can destroy his body, he cannot destroy his soul. The spirit self remains very much alive. Not only is such a being alive, but also the problems that caused this act are still very much a part of its mental and emotional mindset. Once a spirit understands what it has done, it is usually filled with a sense of remorse and becomes depressed. There are many on the other side of life whose sole responsibility is to assist these trapped victims and lovingly escort them to areas where they receive proper comfort for their mental torture.
In a case of death by accident, violence, or natural disaster, etc. the spirit is forced out of the body so quickly that it barely realizes what has occurred. A spirit feels no physical pain from this kind of death. No spirit has ever said that it felt pain going through a windshield in a car crash, or felt the crush of a tumbling wall during an earthquake. In this kind of death a spirit is literally knock out so quickly that there is no time to register any discomfort or pain. By the time a spirit comprehends its situation, it is already gone from the physical body.
Sometimes the rapid transition of consciousness that results from a sudden or violent death can propel the dead into a startlingly new reality so quickly that the individual becomes extremely disoriented and refuses to accept the dramatic change. Just imagine: One moment you are driving home after a normal day of work, and the next you are forcefully ejected into a parallel reality where you are unable to communicate with the people you know and are unable to touch the surroundings that you are accustomed to. You feel fine, your body looks the same, but you are somehow separated from everything and everyone that you believe is real. In this scenario it is not uncommon for the accident victim to refuse spiritual assistance and to attempt to remain as close to the physical world as possible, clinging to the their last perception of reality. Spirits have often expressed anger at such untimely deaths; some even want revenge.
Depending on the particular passing, a person might lose consciousness, or has a spontaneous awareness that he is standing outside of his body and looking down at his lifeless body. Because this kind of death is a shock, and he is not prepared to make the transition, his spirit may stay at the scene and wander around to try to figure out what happened to him. He still feels very much alive and thinks he is a physical being until the realization sinks in that he is not. Spirit often tried to speak to the people around them and became disconcerted when no one answered back. Although we cannot hear the deceased, they are completely able to hear what we are saying and thinking (clairvoyance).
Return to the Present
Tell yourself that you will recall everything that occurred during regression, and that new memories will come into your conscious awareness in the next few days. Then bring yourself back to your current life by silently counting from one to five. Keep your eye close as you gradually return to the present. When you are ready, count to five again and open your eye.
Some people experience a past life on their first attempt, but other people need to repeat the exercise again and again before they finally succeed.
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